If you’ve ever been single going into the holiday season, you’ve probably strategized any number of ways to get out of having conversations with certain family members on why you’re not married, or even in a serious relationship. The endless holiday parties are thinly veiled broadcasts to the world that you are without a significant “plus one”. Even the happiest of television commercials conspire to make you believe that this time of the year is reserved only for those with a special someone. The holiday season can really suck if you’re single, but only if you don’t plan ahead. Below are some guidelines that you can use to not only survive as a single, but to actually enjoy it!
Be honest with yourself. First, ask yourself if you want or need to be in a relationship right now. Many people choose (gasp!) to be single because their lifestyle is better suited to being unattached. Other factors like career, financial, emotional stability need to be ironed out before bringing someone significant in our lives. In either case, it is absolutely OKAY to be single. As long as you understand and are comfortable in your singledom, everyone else’s opinion (read: judgment) is irrelevant and should be taken with a gracious nod and smile. Go where you are celebrated, not tolerated. Contrary to popular belief, you do not have to go to every holiday party or family gathering, especially if you know negativity will likely show up. The holidays is a time to celebrate love, not tolerate snide, rude, or hurtful behavior. Choose to be with friends and family who will bring out the reason for the season!
Turn frustrations into opportunities. If you are frustrated with being single, don’t just sit there and pout, do something about it! Joining a Meetup singles group, On the Go tours for single travelers, or your local singles events is a great way to meet new people. Have fun for yourself! Remember that you have the power to make or break your holiday. Celebrate in the way that brings you joy.